The Pebble or the Rock

Which has the greater impact, the pebble or the rock? Many people would think the heavier stone, the rock, would have the greatest impact. I don't believe this choice to be true. When a heavy stone is thrown into a pond, it sinks to the bottom. However, when a pebble is thrown into the pond, it lingers near the surface and creates ripples. This effect happens because it's lighter. Can you imagine when we have Christ in our lives and have released the burdens of guilt, shame, hurt, envy, poor relationships, resentment, and low self-esteem, how much lighter we could be? Our pride, ego, and inability to lift others up, keeps us heavy and unable to heal and move forward. By being light, we make the greatest impact by becoming focused, happier, and more pleasant to be around. We are able to thrive and live on purpose.

Just think about it. When we lighten ourselves from the things that serve no positive purpose, the impact is felt from the inner to the outer ring. The first ring that will benefit from the impact is our family, second is our friends, third ring is our colleagues, and the fourth ring is our community. The fifth ring and beyond represents our country and the world. Our impact is only limited to what we choose it to be.

Beloved I encourage you to reflect on which stone you are- the pebble or the rock. My prayer is for you to lighten your burdens, give them to the Lord, and let Him use you in a mighty way that will positively impact those around you.

#liveonpurpose #unstoppableyou #bethepebble

By way of background, Jennifer is a retired U.S. Navy veteran, domestic violence advocate, and inspirational influencer. As the Founder and CEO of Inspirationally Speaking, LLC and Unstoppable You Ministries, Inc., Jennifer is passionately walking in her purpose as an award winning motivational speaker and bestselling author of Tomorrow My Sunshine Will Come: Memoirs of Women Who Survived Domestic Violence. Jennifer is also the Founder of the Unstoppable You Conference, TV Show Host of Living Unshackled ON Purpose, corporate trainer for College of Southern Maryland, prolific blogger, and public speaking coach. After 21.7 years of faithful service in the military, it is her desire to continue to be of service. Jennifer's business mission is to help others find their personal peace, purpose and power through sharing her journey, the good, the bad and the ugly. Visit: www.inspirationallyspeaking.com to book Jennifer for your next event.

No Need To Starve

It's widely known that correctional institutions would serve bread and water to prisoners who ended up in solitary confinement as a form of punishment due to being violent and/or unruly. Although bread or a loaf-like mixture of many foods along with water had the necessary nutrients to sustain the prisoner, the monotony of having to endure eating this three times a day, for several days or even weeks, was enough to negatively impact the prisoner's physical, mental, and emotional wellbeing.

Why do I bring this up? So often we go through life shackled and in bondage like a prisoner from low self-esteem, unprocessed emotions from traumatic childhood experiences, jealousy, envy, and unforgiveness. Through self-sabotage, we dull the pain with the temporary fix of drugs, alcohol, gambling, and promiscuity. We use these dysfunctional techniques to fill a void because we are hurt and empty.


Sharing from experience, I know this emptiness all to well. We can go our whole lives trying to fill our emptiness with the things of this world, but we will never be truly satisfied. That's why they're temporary and will always lead to trouble. The devil delights in our despair. So if you are sick and tired of being sick and tired of eating like a prisoner then I encourage you to break free from the chains of self-hate, drama, and depression!
Praise God I now know an eternal source that is the Living Bread. And if you accept Jesus Christ as your Saviour, He will sustain you so that you will never starve (John 6:35). If you believe, the Holy Spirit will dwell from within and flow like Living Water (John 4:13-14) and (John 7:37-39). I pray for your shackles to be released and for you to hunger and thirst no more.


#UnstoppableGod #Breakfree #Livinbread #Livingwater #hungernomore#noneedtostarve


By way of background, Jennifer is a retired U.S. Navy veteran, domestic violence advocate, and inspirational influencer. As the Founder and CEO of Inspirationally Speaking, LLC and Unstoppable You Ministries, Inc., Jennifer is passionately walking in her purpose as an award winning motivational speaker and bestselling author of Tomorrow My Sunshine Will Come: Memoirs of Women Who Survived Domestic Violence. Jennifer is also the Founder of the Unstoppable You Conference, TV Show Host of Living Unshackled ON Purpose, corporate trainer, prolific blogger, and public speaking coach. After 21.7 years of faithful service in the military, it is her desire to continue to be of service. Jennifer's business mission is to help others find their personal peace, purpose and power through sharing her journey, the good, the bad and the ugly. Visit:www.inspirationallyspeaking.com to book Jennifer for your next event.
Feel free to contact me:*Jennifer Foxworthy, *jennifer@unstoppableyouministriesinc.org * 1 (833) 330-7867 (STOP) *www.unstoppableyouministriesinc.org

Steps To Becoming A Thriver

There's power in our words and our actions give life to those words. In any traumatic experience such as domestic violence, sexual assault, or even losing a loved one, there are necessary steps that should be taken to move a person from surviving/existing to thriving. In my humble opinion, there is a difference. Step by step, a beautiful journey of healing, self-care, and eventually finding purpose from the pain will be discovered.

I believe that healing consists of acknowledging what you experienced, restoring your broken soul, and forgiving (self and others). We must be honest enough with ourselves to grieve the lost of our innocence, our trust, a relationship, and/or the love we held for someone dear to us.

Next, self-care is critical. That may come in the form of counseling, a good cry, support groups, journaling, long walks or drives, as well as soaking in a lavender bubble bath. Whatever the methods, let it be positive and nurturing to YOU. Last but not least, find purpose from the pain. No matter what we go through, good or bad, there is a lesson to be learned. Within that lesson bares fruit of humility, strength, and resiliency. Through it all, find the purpose and it will birth your passion.

Overall, be gentle with yourself. Don't suppress the hurt and pain. This will do more harm than good. It can take a toll mentally, physically, and emotionally. Denial feeds dysfunction and God can't heal what we conceal. So keep it real with yourself. By following these steps, every relationship you have will benefit from your journey to thrive. Most importantly, YOU will be a better person from it. Life is too short. It is my prayer that you don't give up on life and live it to the fullest. I don't want you to just exist. I want you to be Unstoppable!

By way of background, Jennifer is a retired U.S. Navy veteran, domestic violence awareness advocate, and inspirational influencer. As the Founder and CEO of Inspirationally Speaking, LLC and Unstoppable You Ministries, Inc., Jennifer is passionately walking in her purpose as an award winning motivational speaker and bestselling author of Tomorrow My Sunshine Will Come: Memoirs of Women Who Survived Domestic Violence. Jennifer is also the Founder of the Unstoppable You Conference, TV Show Host of Living Unshackled ON Purpose, corporate trainer, prolific blogger, and public speaking coach. After 21.7 years of faithful service in the military, it is her desire to continue to be of service. Jennifer's business mission is to help others find their personal peace, purpose and power through sharing her journey, the good, the bad and the ugly. Visit: www.inspirationallyspeaking.com to book Jennifer for your next event.

The Common Denominator

When I look back on all my poor relationships, whether platonic or intimate, there was a common theme. I figured I could change those people's behaviors towards me if I loved harder and stronger. I gave, and they took. Before I knew it, I was depleted, depressed, and doubted my existence. Because I didn't realize my self-worth (due to suppressed low self-esteem), it showed in the pattern of toxic relationships I allowed myself to be involved in. They served no positive purpose and I kept getting the short end of the stick every time. I was imploding from the inside out and my low self-esteem was the pathway to self-destructive behaviors. Worst yet, no one knew what I was personally going through because the mask with the bright smile I wore in public, hid the hurt, pain, shame, and guilt.

It wasn't until I got to my "sick and tired of being sick and tired" point, that I realized it wasn't my job to change those people who mistreated me. However, it was my responsibility to look within and change myself. Through self-reflection and looking deeper, I had to ask myself "How could I get the same negative results from different people?" As hard as it was to accept, I was the common denominator. I was the main factor in each experience. Although it doesn't make it right for anyone to mistreat another person, it was in my control to determine how long, if at all, was I willing to put up with their horrible conduct. This decision can only come from having love and joy by starting from within. I had to stand on God's word and believe that I am fearfully and wonderfully made (Psalms 139: 14 KJV).

It is my desire to share my story because I know I am not the only one who experienced these toxic relationships and was delusional enough to believe that I could be all the other person ever needed; that by completely giving of myself, they would love me the way I desired them to. This was an unrealistic expectation because at the time I didn't know how to love myself.

There is hope for each and every person who struggles to find love and acceptance in a pattern of abusive relationships. We must nurture the little girl or boy inside and give them the unconditional love they rarely received. It is important to understand that the devil wants us to stay broken and pass the burned out torch to our children. If the devil can keep us down, dysfunctional, and depressed, then that is one less person who is walking in their true purpose and living passionately like there is no tomorrow. I pray that you will take the steps to release the toxic shackles that hold you back and down from living the way God desires for you. Take the steps to heal from any hurt and pain. Take the steps to forgive yourself and eventually those who hurt you. Once this takes place, you will be the common denominator for positive relationships in your life filled with a light that no one can extinguish.

May God bless you always beloved.

Who's In Your Boat?

I believe there are three types of people that come into our lives.

*The Rower-A person who is actively trying to help you get up the creek or help shift the current in your favor. This person could be praying for your success, cheering you on and encouraging others to do the same, and/or watching your back while you focus on what lies ahead. Overall, The Rower is a person that makes a positive impact in your life. 

*The Sleeper-A person who is just a long for the ride. They are not actively doing anything to help you achieve your goals. Most times they are sleeping on their purpose and therefore can't help support yours. I consider The Sleeper dead weight serving no positive purpose. Be careful because their snoring (gossiping, unfulfilled promises, hoarding information, and lack of action) can cause you to lose focus.

*The Driller-A person who is unhappy with the direction their boat is going in so they hitch a ride in yours for the purpose of drilling holes in it. Then they quickly jump out and happily watch you sink. They have the toxic mindset of "If I can't succeed, neither will you!" These type of people have an evil spirit of jealousy, boasting, and backstabbing. Beware! The white teeth you see from their smile is hiding the serpent tongue in their mouth.

I pray that I have been The Rower in your life in some aspect. Life is hard enough as it is, so I also pray for wisdom and discernment to know who is The Rower, The Sleeper, or The Driller. Last but not least, take some time to look down in the water at your own reflection to answer the question "Who's In Your Boat?" Instead of rowing your own boat, you maybe sleeping or self-sabotaging your purpose in life. 


Have an Unstoppable You Day!

15 Tips To Finish Your Race Making An Impact

Recently I attended a funeral held for a dear woman that I had only known for a few years.  But in that short period of time she made a huge impact on my life personally and professionally.  This amazing woman of God had touched so many lives that at her funeral it appeared to be at least a thousand people in attendance.  It was literally standing room only.  I was inspired by the diverse crowd of all races, young and old, democrat and republican, all sitting together celebrating her life.  This beautiful woman of 74 years young, left a positive and lasting legacy not just for her family, but at the local, state, and even national level.  She was extremely active in several churches, organizations, and even was the co-founder of a few.  Her biography read like a good novel.  

I was so honored to witness this celebration of life that I felt compelled to do a Facebook live video (https://www.facebook.com/jennifer.foxworthy.3/videos/1215700165127208/).  I had posed the question to all who viewed it "How will you finish the race and make an impact?"   

It states in 2 Timothy 4:7 "I have fought the good fight, I have finished the race, I have kept the faith." (NIV).  Often times this scripture is quoted at funerals to encourage those in mourning that the deceased has lived an abundant and impactful life. 

If you are unsure on how to run YOUR race and what reward awaits you at the finish line, these 15 tips with Christian scriptures will guide you.

1.  Tap into your potential.  Everybody has the potential (Philippians 4:13) to do great and amazing things. Ultimately, will you sit on the sidelines and watch life pass you by or will you participate and get in the race?  It is hard to make an impact if your time, talent, and gifts are not being utilized to the fullest.

2.  Eat right.  God blessed us with the nourishment of His word, the bible.  It is our daily bread (Luke 11:3) and guides us on how we are supposed to live.  In order to fight temptation, one must be rooted in scripture daily.

3.  Wear the proper clothing for the race.  In order to live a righteous and impactful life, putting on the Full Armor of God (Ephesians 6: 10-18) is necessary.  When wearing the armor, you are protected from head to toe, which makes it hard for the enemy's evil spirits to penetrate.  

4.  Keep your head up and stay focused.  Prayer is powerful and is our direct communication to God (1 John 5:14).  In order to listen to God's voice and reduce distractions, it will be essential to seek wisdom and discernment (Colossians 1:9-10).  Praying for wisdom and discernment will help you navigate through life's trials and tribulations. 
  
5.  Stretch.  This is God's opportunity to challenge you to go beyond your comfort zone (John 16:33).  During this phase of your journey it can be uncomfortable, but worth it in the end.  It demonstrates your ability to step out on faith and do God's will, which is to live on purpose as He desires for you.

6. Ensure you have a good coach.  I encourage you to find someone who is making a difference and can properly guide you in all the areas of life (Proverbs 27:17).  You may need several coaches (physically, mentally, emotionally, spiritually, and professionally) and that is ok.  It is not a sign of weakness asking for help (Proverbs 17:17).

7.  Pep talk.  There maybe days to where you feel alone and think the world is against you.  This is the opportunity to dig down deep and encourage yourself to not give up and keep going (2 Chronicles 15:7).  

8.  Know where your cheering section is located.  Your cheering section consist of people who genuinely have your back (Proverbs 12:26).  That will pray, support, uplift, and push you to be the best you can be.  Overall, this is your "A Team."  Note: be careful who you invite to be in your cheering section.  Not every smiling face is for you.  The schemes of the enemy come in many forms.  This is why tip #4 is so important.

9.  Endurance.  You were built for your race.  God knew you before you were formed in your mother's womb (Psalms 139:13-16).  It requires patience with yourself and others.  It is not how fast you run but the impact you make along the way.  Just keep moving!

10.  Keep a steady pace.  By having a steady pace in your race you can last longer.  Don't try to be perfect, but be consistent (Ecclesiastes 9:10).  

11.  Stay in your lane.  This tip is very important to understand.  When you lose focus and get distracted on how other people are running their race, you run the risk of crossing into their lane.  When this happens you can get disqualified (2 Corinthians 10:12) .  You are fearfully and wonderfully made, which makes you unique.  Embrace who you are and Whom you ultimately belong to. By being authentic, you realize that you no longer have to compete with others or covet what they have.  Once you understand this, any evil spirit of jealousy and greed will disappear.  By staying in your lane, you are able to walk in your purpose (Ephesians 1:11).

12.  Help an injured runner.  We are our brother's and sister's keeper (Colossians 4:5-6).  This is not meant to say that we enable them through life, but uplift and encourage them.  To run past someone in need is not what God intended for us to do.  Remember the Golden Rule "Do unto others as you would want them to do unto you."  God made us to be of service to others.  Your act of kindness and compassion can speak life into someone (Ecclesiastes 4:9-10). 

13.  Overcome the hurdles.  You can overcome the obstacles in your race, regardless if they are self-imposed or made by external sources.  No matter if you jump over it or go around, obstacles are temporary and can be an opportunity to learn valuable lessons.  Just hold on to God's unchanging hand (James 1:12).

14.  Passing the baton.  The baton is the legacy that you pass down to the next generation (Deuteronomy 6:5-7).  Will you make a positive impact on those around you and leave a legacy of inspiration or will it be filled with dysfunction and negativity (Titus 3:10).  This will depend on how you run your race. 

15.  Leave the track in better condition than what you found it.  Make a difference in the world by being a productive citizen of society and in your family.  Growth starts from the inside out.  So if you are unstable so will your house.  If your house is not built on a solid foundation then it may impact the community in which you live.  Therefor, be a person that unites and not divides (2 Timothy 4:1-22).

At the end of your race, your reward will be eternal life in heaven.  Matthew 25:23 (NIV) "His master replied, 'Well done, good and faithful servant!  You have been faithful with a few things; I will put you in charge of many things.  Come and share your master's happiness.'"  As Christians this is what we should hope to hear.  Now run Your Race!

Delay or Denial Does Not Always Mean Defeat.

When I retired in 2013 from the U.S. Navy after 21.7 years, I stepped out on faith to start my business Inspirationally Speaking, LLC as a professional motivational speaker. In addition, I was simultaneously writing my first book to self-publish. I prayed, planned, researched, and got mentors because I knew the make or break point for a small start-up business was between three to five years, and I needed to give myself the best chance to succeed. Like any company, I needed clients to take a chance and give my services a try. I made phone calls, mailed letters, sent emails, attended networking events, scheduled meetings, asked for referrals, and followed up on everything. Some doors opened and many other times my direct approach (the elevator) had me chasing my tail, only to get delayed and denied. Even though I was discouraged, I focused my energy elsewhere and figured the doors I wanted to open, were just not for me. 

Now, I am coming up on my third year business anniversary. I have kept God first, tried to remain humble, and built a consistent brand. I am here to testify that the doors that I peeked through or that never opened for me, are about to swing wide open that not even the devil can shut. I didn't realize it in the beginning, but I understand now that God is the ultimate strategist. The route he had me take (the stairs) was long, windy, and unknown. Although my journey has been exhausting (and still have a ways to go), it has taken me to a huge penthouse filled with people who are willing to come alongside the vision. Contrary to the route I tried to take earlier, it would have led to a small janitor's closet with mice and roaches. So please stay encouraged and don't despise small or slow beginnings. Do not give up, sometimes the reward is bigger than you can imagine when you have to climb the stairs. The direct and easy route may not always be the best or safest. Habakkuk 2:3 "For the revelation awaits an appointed time; it speaks of the end and will not prove false. Though it linger, wait for it; it will certainly come and will not delay." Trust the process and know that a delay or denial does not always mean defeat.